Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Diversity & Inclusion 101: Time To Walk Through the Doors of Truth

United we stand...
We as a race – the human race – are divided. And not just along color lines. We’re separated and segregated, figuratively and literally. Mentally, physically and spiritually. It’s of our own doing too, consciously and unconsciously.

              A lot of us prefer it this way, being divided. Particularly those part of historically-included groups. You know, male, straight, able, Christian, documented. White. So many benefits, so much access. So easy not to notice the inequities affecting those who are different.

              For historically-included persons it’s comfortable to maintain human categories and social divisions, even preferred. That’s because the alternative requires leaving the bosom of ignorance and facing hard, unsettling truth. Coming to terms with society’s self-inflicted inequities is no psychological walk in the park. Examining the worst of harmful, age old cultural practices and institutionalized policies can resemble a gut punch. It’s jolting, even painful.

              It’s a fact that once faced with the truth, lots of folks refuse to stomach the stench of inequity that exists. They turn away and sink back into the murky bog of ignorance.

              Knowing but not knowing.

              Here’s the good news: if you facedown the sobering fear and shock of truth, there’s salvation. It comes in the form of reclaiming your humanity. All it involves is getting curious. No easy task though when your universe has been tilted.

So many of us see, but do not see.
              Yet it’s also funny how something as simple as getting up close and personal with people different from yourself can help you see their humanness. And yours. That is, if you approach such encounters with an open mind and heart.

              Setting aside bias, prejudice and stereotypes can be difficult, if not impossible. It’s also uncomfortable. There’s nothing like believing in a thing only to discover it is not in fact the truth.

              Take poverty. Like other historically-excluded groups, poverty fosters a toxic, limiting belief system. One that dehumanizes a broad swath of our population. It generalizes, stigmatizes and therefore marginalizes people. In turn, institutions and cultural attitudes conspire to cement in place and thus perpetuate the conditions of those affected.

              It took me serving as board president of Woman’s Co-op to unlearn all I had learned about what poverty is, who’s affected and what their reality is.

Women helping women succeed
Woman’s Co-op is a nonprofit network of women working together to improve their lives through life management skills, education and employment opportunities. Many members have low or no income.

              Until I got knee deep in the work of Woman’s Co-op, I used to make up in my mind what it meant to live in poverty. I based it all on my limited encounters with poor folks: on the street, in stores, at meetings, wherever. I also drew on warped media images, especially on TV and in movies. In retrospect they were mere snapshots – moments in time.

              What it took for me to see the truth was “being” with them. Listening and withholding judgment. Eating with them without critique. Crying with without offering pity. Holding their babies as if they were my own. Laughing to share their joy. Equally important was sharing my own woes – personal secrets that polite folks like myself conveniently keep out of conversation so as to maintain membership in the coveted Middle Class Social Club.

              That back and forth sharing, over time, resulted in an unleashing of a mutual authenticity that allowed me to “see” persons living with lower incomes. And the majority of them are me, just from different circumstances.

              We’re at a pivotal moment in history. At no other time have so many doors of truth been more visible. It’s time for us to open those doors. All of them; not just those we’re comfortable with. Open them and step out of ignorance. Time to embrace justice. And in the process reclaim our humanity.  

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Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Black Hair Matters

Rockin' it all natural
I love black natural hair. The way it looks, the way it feels. And the way it makes me feel, inside. And I’m not the only one. There’s a revolution coming. Maybe it’s already here.

              More and more, I’m noticing African American men and women increasingly embrace their natural hair in all its creative styles. Dreads, plaits, twisties, cornrows, naturals, Mohawks, faux hawks, afro puffs, dookie braids. You name it, I’m seeing it.

              Kinky, curly, coily, bushy, tight, short, long – I’m loving it.

              Reasons for going natural are varied. For some, it’s convenient; for others it supports a healthier, more chemical free lifestyle. For a whole lot more it’s just more affordable.

              Sure, lots of black folks still “process” their doos. They’re perming, weaving, tinting, dying, highlighting, and wearing toupees and wigs. That’s fine by me; do your thing.

Required reading
              Unfortunately, that “thing” includes succumbing to hair-related esthetics and preferences favored by white Americans. Sadly, we (including me) all have generations of social conditioning to thank for that. It’s fueled by media that, consciously or not (read Tom Burrell’s Brainwashed), is designed to prop up whiteness as the end-all, be-all standard. But I digress.

              It’s just I’m lifting up sisters and brothers who are styling their hair in ways associated with our indigenous African American heritage. And they are rockin’ it with flavor. Leading the charge are young folks. No surprise there.

              Back to the revolution. There was a mantra in the African American community of the 1960s: “Black Power”. The catch phrase popularized by activists Kwame Ture and Mukasa Dada, better known as Stokely Carmichael and Willie Ricks. The pair were organizers for the Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee (SNCC).

              Their work sparked one aspect of the nation’s collective Black Power movements, which became widespread nationally and internationally by the early ‘70s. It was further fueled by historic firebrands like Angela Davis and Malcolm X. They and scores of others at the time were demonized by mainstream establishment. In recent years however, many historians have come to view them more evenly and recognize their stalwart efforts during a difficult period of social change.

Natural history
Hair is a big deal in American society. Unfortunately, the tops of African Americans’ heads have for generations been a blistering battlefield. A scarred landscape on which oppressive cultural warfare continues to be waged.

              Witness the systematic and institutionalized workplace racism centered on hair. Citing policies and “appropriateness” as placeholders for white supremacy, African Americans were/are made to conform to hairstyles that as much as possible resemble standards of beauty and acceptability associated with whiteness.

              Dreads, twisties, braids, cornrows, even if perfectly coifed, until recently were banned in office environments. Still are in most mainstream institutions. In spite of it all, African Americans, though savaged by their inability to express a cultural individuality, nevertheless endure. But at what cost?

              It all speaks to resilience, what’s happening now. Figuratively speaking, once upon a time Black Lives Matter was called Black Power. But like the ‘60s and ‘70s slogan, it’s being twisted. Perverted by those afraid of some sort of uprising in which African Americans are “gunning for whitey.” But nothing could be further from the truth.

A person's hair is nothing to toy around with
              More and more persons uncomfortable with the Black Lives Matter movement assign blame of recent tragic killings of law enforcement personnel to an adamant but peaceful activist campaign. It’s a move rooted in fear and driven by a resigned notion that in our society there are people who must necessarily be oppressed in order for others to thrive.

              I don’t buy it. Neither should you. Natural black hair, like Black Lives Matter, embodies a growing reclamation of cultural humanity and sense of social justice. It’s time to set aside fear in favor of authentic efforts toward equity in our institutions and systems. Join the revolution.

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Thursday, September 3, 2015

Selfie Sticks: one more way technology is robbing us of our humanity

President Obama has a selfie stick? Say it ain't so.
The selfie stick is a real product. For the longest I thought it was just a running joke on social media. You know, a gag gift. It’s not. It’s a legitimate photography accessory that enhances one’s ability to take smartphone self-portraits – selfies. Guess I’m in a cave when it comes to certain popular culture merchandise. Still, as marketable as it is there’s another, less welcome aspect to the apparatus.

              Selfie sticks are handheld telescoping extenders that increase the distance between people and their smartphones when snapping pictures. In the process they create another kind of distance, the kind between the photographer and passersby. And that’s the rub.

              In the old days you had to ask a stranger for an assist if you wanted your entire group in a shot. Now we have one more way not to interact with human beings we don’t know. ATM’s, automated customer service, grocer self-checkouts – we're moving farther and farther apart, thanks to technology.

              Although the spellcheck ap on my computer keeps flagging “selfie”, it’s listed in Wikipedia. The online encyclopedia defines the selfie stick as, “…a monopod used to take selfie photographs by positioning a smartphone or camera beyond the normal range of the arm.”

Why interact with fellow human beings when you don't have to?
              Personally, I exalt this product to the same degree I covet refrigerator door magnets and Chia Pets. Who actually buys them? Turns out, an awful lot of people. How this cultural phenomenon got my eyeballs and into the mainstream is beyond me. Maybe it’s because I’ve never seen one in action.

              A simple Internet search further confirmed my ignorance. They’re sold everywhere – from WalMart to Best Buy. Google lists a site that rates them. “The Top 8 Selfie Sticks”. There’s even a website called Who knew?

              Taking a deeper dive, I surfed and guess what I found? Selfie sticks. Lots of them. They sell from a few bucks to more than $100. Some even have a Bluetooth feature that allows it to do something, although I wasn’t curious enough to keep reading and find out.

This might be why Disney banned selfie sticks
              Back on Wikipedia I noted with no small degree of satisfaction the banning of selfie sticks at some public venues, citing safety reasons. Disneyland is one of them. I looked it up on their website and it’s true.

              (Random factoid: Disney also prohibits certain “inappropriate” tattoos, so I might be personally banned if I show up shirtless to see Mickey. Luckily the facial hair restriction is no longer enforced. Oh wait, that was just for park employees).

              This whole isolation thing reminds me of the mentality most of us have about being in physical proximity with each other. Like at shopping mall food courts. People go out of their way not to sit at tables occupied by strangers that have open seats. Even if there are no other chairs, folks will orbit, trays in hand, until an entire table is vacant before swooping in.

              Privacy is the reason given for not wanting to share space with others, (second only to “germs”). Privacy from what? Do perfect strangers across from you who are enjoying their Kung Pao Chicken really care about your Aunt Mable’s preferred hemorrhoid product?

Quick, open seats. No wait; we'd have to share the table.
              Distasteful example I know. The chicken dish I mean, but you get the idea. My guess is most people sharing your table tune out your conversation and vice versa.

              In the end, sure it can be uncomfortable to approach a stranger and ask them to take your picture. The benefit though is that it stretches you in such a way that bolsters your sense of humanity, acceptance and inclusion. And be honest, after you help a group of smiling faces with their Kodak Moment, doesn’t leave you feeling good inside? That alone is the price of admission, tattoos or not.


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Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Change is in the Air

Why is this message so threatening?
We are currently experiencing a period of significant cultural change. It’s exciting, widespread and somewhat intimidating because of its magnitude. This collective transformation is sweeping the nation, maybe the world. And there’s something altogether unique about society’s seismic shifting.

              It’s not just occurring within the boundaries of social justice either. It’s impacting numerous political and economic sectors too. In the process, it’s unearthing traditions and behaviors that once were firmly cemented in place. The result? Hope for some. Uncertainty for others. Fear for a great many.

              The causes are many and complex but the so-called Arab Spring is the global flashpoint. The events of Arab Spring, which took place half a world away in 2010, consisted of a wave of protests, demonstrations and civil unrest in parts of the Middle East. All were rooted in the dissatisfaction of the people with the status quo. Oppression seemed the common thread.

One theory of change
              It’s the same here in the States. For instance, the Black Lives Matter movement is a grassroots campaign that’s galvanizing African Americans and their supporters across the country. Its origin stems from the 2013 acquittal of George Zimmerman in the shooting death of Trayvon Martin. It has since evolved to more generally protest many law enforcement agencies whose militaristic (some say brutal) policies disproportionately target African American men and women.

              On the economic front there’s Occupy Wall Street. This movement started in 2011. It illuminated protesters’ perceptions of, and attitudes about economic inequality in general, with particular emphasis on income disparity. The movement received global attention and inspired the broader Occupy movement against social and economic inequality worldwide.

              Of a more personal nature, marriage equality awareness has surged in recent years. Known more commonly (though perhaps not as accurately) as same sex marriage, change on this front has centered lately on the LGBTQ community but the disabled community has also been affected. Only a couple months ago, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that state-level bans on same-sex marriage are unconstitutional.

Make room for all identities
Then there’s the emergence of issues related to persons who identify as transgender. Conversations are happening that poke holes in the conventional male/female binary, as well as accepted notions of what defines “masculine” and “feminine”. It also surfaces questions of acceptance and oppression – some of a life-threatening nature. According to reports, in 2015 there have been at least 16 transgender women murdered across the country.

              And let’s not forget about this nation’s policy (and make no mistake, it’s a policy) of mass incarceration, an institutional issue seemingly driven by the crime. Yet with the crime rate trending down, growing evidence points more strongly toward a broken, racist criminal justice system as the culprit. And it’s bookended by plain old fashion capitalism in the form of corporations running our prisons.

              All this change is not without backlash. And it’s showing up in often weird, dysfunctional ways. For instance, the political landscape is unrecognizable. Presidential candidates are flippantly mocking each other and employing communication strategies more akin to reality TV than substantive, issues-based messaging. Surely it cannot last. Or can it?

Time to change our criminal justice system
              What we are undergoing as a culture and as a nation, this dynamic social evolution, is quantum in nature. That is, it’s more a giant leap for humankind than one small step. It reminds me of the huge science and technology advancements made in the 20th Century (i.e., space flight, genetic research, computers… the washing machine).

              This progress, while many welcome it, also is taking a toll on our collective psyche. It’s hard to keep up. I’m all for it though, especially if it ultimately results in increased compassion and empathy among those of us who (consciously and unconsciously) oppress others.


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Tuesday, August 18, 2015

Bear Witness to Truth of this Nation by Embracing its Contradictions

This isn't the first time these guys talk out of both sides of their mouths
One of the toughest things to come to terms with in life are contradictions. That is, holding equally true but ultimately conflicting facts and realities. Contradictions play out in all sorts of ways, from the way we think about institutions to how we look at people. How one holds these contradictions play an important role in one’s outlook, especially as it relates to truth and justice.

              For instance, I love the United States of America. I was born here; it’s my country and I’m proud of it. I like to think of the U.S. as the No. 1 country in the world, despite a heck of a lot of facts and figures that suggest our overall ranking is otherwise.

              Our stated values and principles are things I hold dear. And yet as an institutional system and as much as I love it, this nation is wildly flawed. Flawed in ways that frustrate and anger me.

One of the most damning contradictions about our founding fathers
              That our country is imperfect I can accept. What’s harder to come to terms with is how so many people refuse to accept and embrace this contradiction.

              We say we value freedom. But the U.S. has the highest rate of incarceration in the world. We lift up equality as a cherished principle. Yet conditions like racism, poverty and hunger persist across the 50 states.

              We insist one of our most cherished institutions is education. Yet we deny inner city school systems the resources they need to thrive. At the same time we saddle college graduates with staggering debt to accompany their diplomas.


              Recently I visited the National Constitution Center in Philadelphia. It’s an amazing place, steeped in pride of history and country. It was at once inspiring and troubling.

              The main attraction is “Freedom Rising”, a 17-minute, 360-degree theatrical presentation. Think: intensely patriotic IMAX Theater. The production traces the “American quest for freedom” and if you want to know about the beginnings of the United States and its storied history, this production and the Center itself is the place to go. Sort of.

              See, within these walls are contradictions. Contradictions and omissions – the sum of which fail to tell the full and complete story of our great nation. This ultimately speaks to truth. Or rather, untruth.

Thomas Jefferson. Whose story? His-story.
Most of the important facts and figures are there, along with relevant turning points. But the centerpiece of the contradictions lay with the troubling immersion in which one finds oneself at the Center. That’s because like most museums, libraries and bookstores, this venerable place is steeped in a singular perspective – one viewed through the lens of straight white Christian males.

              That’s a problem. Especially for people who don’t hold that identity. The thing of it is, most of us who are not straight and white and male and Christian are not even aware of the lens through which we view things like this exhibition.

              Had I not made a conscious decision to experience my visit to the Center through the lens of racial equity, I would not have noticed that after the initial sentence of the “Freedom Rising” presentation, Native Americans were never mentioned again. It was as if they went extinct.

              If I hadn’t kept my critical thinking cap on, I probably would not have keyed in on the fact that the U.S. Constitution was written by and specifically for men. White, landowning men.

              There are scores of other examples but the point is that the Center, and historians in general, whitewash history. They scrub it clean of the dirtier aspects contributing to this nation’s creation. They sweep away hard cold facts in favor of more palatable renderings. And it’s damaging to our psyche. Telling the truth from a single perspective keeps people from coming to terms with who we are as a nation.

              Until we hear, and more importantly accept, all sides of United States history – the good, bad and ugly, folks will continue to have trouble sitting in the right and wrong of America. Its contradictions.

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Thursday, August 13, 2015

Time for Communities to Get Off the "Savior" Mentality Regarding Public Servants

Mighty, yes; savior, no. And that's no dig either.
Departed Battle Creek Public Schools Superintendent Linda Hicks has something in common with our U.S. president and incoming New York Police Chief Kim Royster. And it’s as big as it is problematic.

              First Royster. It was gratifying to note her elevation to Police Chief of our nation’s largest city. Royster’s advancement from Deputy Chief will make her the highest-ranking black woman in the history of the New York Police Department, according to reports. I celebrate her achievement but her promotion is accompanied by some unwelcome baggage.

              Royster has nearly 30 years of experience with the department. That’s not the problem though. Neither is the fact that she started her career with NYPD as a police administrative aide. Nor is it that she’s a mother of two.

              What’s troubling is this: Royster is a person. A human being. Why is that a problem? In and of itself it’s not. The thing is, there’s a whole lot of expectations that this one individual can affect change, in short order, to a system that was established 170 years ago. It’s the largest municipal police force in the country, with a reported uniform strength of about 34,500 people.

              A lot of folks are pinning their hopes on Royster to markedly improve department levels of racial and gender equity. That’s real heavy lifting for just one person.

              This same issue’s on an even larger scale at the national level. Even before his election, idealistic supporters cast President Obama in the role of savior. What we found out all too quickly though is that like Royster, the president is just one person. The result was sobering disappointment and in a lot of cases outright disapproval.

Royster is super too; but no miracle worker to be idolized
              A single individual within a large system can inspire. They can draw up plans, manage and lead. Ultimately though, said individual’s agenda is subject to often invisible and largely uncontrollable processes. These processes are driven by institutional policies, procedures, as well as the people employed there.

              Indeed, the very purpose of these institutional elements is to keep the organization, and therefore the system, running smoothly. That makes change difficult; even when the change is in the best interests of all involved.

              External forces are also a factor. Meddling outsiders, politics, regulations and other dynamics all influence, even mandate what happens inside a given institution. To the extent that no one person can affect significant change when faced with so many moving parts – most of which are designed to discourage, and in some cases actively resist change.

              About Linda Hicks. Like Royster and Obama, the former BCPS superintendent suffers from the human condition of only being one person.

              On occasion I got to work up close and personal with Hicks. From my perspective she did everything humanly possible to strengthen and repair BCPS. Unfortunately, she was faced with too much, too little, too late.

              Like her predecessor, Hicks took the reins of a system that had been steadily losing its base of support. The core of that base is people. Students. With bleeding levels of enrollment came (or rather went) government financial support. Fewer students means fewer dollars, resulting in fewer education resources and tools. That translates to poorer outcomes.

Linda Hicks gave 110 percent
Also at that core are school teachers and administrators. Many of them lost faith. The result? Low morale, with many bad-mouthing not just Hicks but students, the school district and the community it serves.

              Like many urban school systems, BCPS is broken. Its problems are many and not just confined to the classroom. Issues are internal and external, from scarce resources to indifferent parents and teachers to meddling adjacent school systems to the state school board and legislators who lack conviction. The breadth of the dysfunction is out of any one person’s control, no matter their job title.

              Did Hicks make mistakes? Who doesn’t? But let’s not forget the good. According to a school board statement, Hicks developed and implemented a successful Ninth Grade Academy that improved graduation rates. She managed the district’s relocation of the Battle Creek Area Math and Science Center to downtown. She also transitioned Dudley Elementary into a STEM school. Not bad.

              It’s time we stopped bringing in “saviors” only to scapegoat them when spectacular results aren’t immediately realized. Instead, let’s surface holistic approaches to building community, ones in which leaders feel supported rather than antagonized.


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Friday, August 7, 2015

Police: Militarizing is Not the Answer/ Instead Listen, Learn & Respect

This is no way to protect and serve
The increasingly publicized acts of violence by police, particularly against persons of color around the nation, are taking a toll on my psyche. Thank goodness my hometown has been spared from these socially traumatizing incidents. Or has it?

              Credit local law enforcement leaders for their upfront examination of policing policies and the proactive measures they’ve been taking to help prevent poor outcomes on our streets. Elsewhere in the country it seems altogether different.

              One of the latest incidents was a University of Cincinnati police officer who shot dead a motorist after pulling him over for a missing front license plate. The officer was charged with murder. The tragedy was caught on video; I viewed it, and was left dumbfounded.

Officer Friendly? I think not.
              TV news and social media, fueled by ever-present mobile phones, security cameras and police body cams are generating increased eyewitness accounts of the oppression and abuse people of color have known was going on all along. But not every cop is guilty.

              A lot of right and just police feel disrespected, insulted and threatened because of the actions of a few rotten apples. May I suggest that now they know what it's like for all the right and just African American men and boys out there who are disproportionately stopped, harassed and jailed for living-while-black.

              Correction, not just men and boys but also women and girls.

              Consider 42-year-old Raynette Turner. A mother of eight, Turner was found dead last week in a New York police holding cell while awaiting arraignment on a shoplifting charge. Then there’s the recent debacle involving 28-year-old Sandra Bland. She too died while in police custody, following an arrest after being pulled over in Texas for a minor traffic violation.

              African Americans aren’t the only people of color dying. Four days before Bland’s death, 24-year-old Native American Sarah Lee Circle Bear of South Dakota, was arrested on a simple bond violation. This mother of two also died in custody. So did Rexdale W. Henry, a 53-year-old Choctaw tribe medicine man and activist. He was found dead in his jail cell in Philadelphia, Miss., on the morning of July 14. Henry was arrested for failing to pay a minor traffic citation.

One of the good guys, er... gals. NYPD's Kim Royster 
These death-by-incarceration incidents and other high profile occurrences in recent days, weeks and months – such as the one widely televised in which a 15-year-old bikini-clad African American girl attending a pool party was slammed to the ground by Texas police – have left me numb. In some ways, it feels like this country’s race relations have traveled backwards in time. Particularly as it relates to the way law enforcement treats people of color.

              The draconian tactics of local and state law enforcement and its growing militarization have been long predicted. Where? In movies.

              Ever notice how the big screen tends to depict cities of the future? Police wear body armor and carry high tech assault gear. Whatever the story line, police on film more resemble combat soldiers than public servants. “The Hunger Games”, “Elysian” and “District Nine” come to mind. Art imitates life. Or is it the other way around?

              Whatever the case, acts of oppression by police are viewed with contempt by moviegoers. In real life however, the reverse is true: somehow those same moviegoers perceive the ones unjustly oppressed by police as always being at fault. Somehow slamming a skinny, half-naked, nonthreatening girl to the ground at a pool party and pinning her to the ground with a knee becomes reasonable.

              Something is happening that compels police, or rather compels society to mandate police to behave the way that they do. It’s time to examine at a national level what some local law enforcement agencies are already doing. That is listen, learn and be respectful of the citizens being policed. It’s the human thing to do.

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